Name and Forms of Address

I prefer to use my chosen name “Ela”. If we have never spoken before, I will refer to myself as Ela and ask that you do the same. I do have a surname, but I prefer to only use this in published works.

I use both the she/her and they/them pronouns and am happy for you to pick either of them (whichever makes you comfortable). I do not use he/him, except in exceptional circumstances. Unless I use he/him, do not use he/him.

For honorifics, I prefer to use none. If honorifics must be used please use Mx. If Mx. cannot be used, please don’t use any and address me by my name alone.

I pronounce my name /ˈɛlə/ (“e-la”), however any reasonable phonetic pronunciation is acceptable.

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This page was inspired by eta. Last updated 28th July 2025. Reason: spelling.